Reader · 14 min
Reading for others
Consent, language that leaves the choice with the person you read for, no certainty, privacy, and how to give hard news so that it can be heard.
In this lesson you will
- Ask for consent and agree on the question before you draw for someone.
- Use language that suggests, asks and leaves the decision with the person you read for.
- Give hard news in a way that can be heard, and keep what you hear private.
At a family dinner, your cousin pushes your deck across the table: “Do me! Is my boyfriend going to propose this year?” Everyone is laughing, and everyone is listening. Reading for someone else is a different job from reading for yourself, and it starts before the first card.
Before you draw
Three things come first. Consent: the person asks for the reading freely, and you read about them, not about people who are not there. The question: you agree on it together, and turn it toward them if it is about someone else. Expectations: you say plainly what a reading is: a way to think, not a forecast.
So your cousin's question becomes, with her agreement, What do I hope for in this relationship, and how can I talk about it? If the table is too public for that, offer to read later, just the two of you.
This lesson is part of Plus
Plus opens every lesson of the Practitioner, Reader and Advanced tiers, with practice that explains every answer.
What the lesson covers
- The reader's power
- Language that leaves the choice with them
- Giving hard news
- Practice
Foundations and the first lesson of every course are free.